Anger Management

Anger Management

Anger is something that we all experience in our daily life. Many people want to know how to control their anger. We had a wonderful session on that during our meditation class. What do we do when we are angry? When and how ANGER comes to us and how do we react following mild, moderate and intense angry situations. What are the anger symptoms? How do we recognize that we are angry? How to cope with anger? What are the preventive methods? What are benefits of anger management or anger control both physically and spiritually? These are some of the most important issues on this topic and we all need to be much more aware of this situation.

If you know you are angry, that is a great positive note. We can use it to minimize our anger to a great deal. If you are more alert, you can recognize the apparent physical reactions in your body due to anger. Different people can have different physical reactions. There can be different chemical reactions in your head or heart. When you are angry your head can be warm, heavy, painful and even some may feel as if their head is about to explode. Eyes, ears and face can transform into different colors. Back of the head or jus above the ears can cause some palpitations and tight feelings. Heart will pump the blood faster and you might feel your heart rate faster pounding. In an intense case, one can get seriously ill and even death can be an unfortunate result. If one gets angry frequently, it can be a silent killer in the long run causing many health issues in between. Eyes, Face, brain, heart, nervous system, blood circulation can be directly affected due to anger. Hence, any disease including cancer, heart attack, diabetes, nervous break down etc. can result in case of long term anger. Brain also can be affected disastrously due to this killer anger.



How to react and control our anger? This is a very important question. Some of the common methods to control anger are:

• Counting up and down from 1 - 10
• Drinking cold water at a slower pace
• Walking slowly up and down in fresh air
• Meditation on breathing
• Meditation on Metta (Loving Compassion)
• Maintaining silence for a while.

Anger can cause havoc and can be deadly disastrous if we react verbally or physically. Especially at the initial 90 seconds, the anger can be very intense but like everything else in the world, anger too will not survive forever. It will slowly fade away. If we can bear it and manage it for a while we can save our own life and even others' lives. Some even tend to kill themselves or others due to anger. That will be a real disaster. Some even might say very insulting and hateful things to others due to anger and the pain cause by such statements can last forever too. Just a simple anger can develop into a massive poisonous tree in the long run if we don't take preventive measures in time. Frustration, Aggression, Jealousy, Anger, Hatred, Revenge are the siblings of the same family. Ill- will, Ignorance, Pride and Ego can be the major root causes of anger. Insomnia, Restlessness, Stress, Insecurity, Fatigue can be the immediate repercussions. 

Therefore, we all need to control and manage our anger in every single day of our life. It is a challenge, but still possible. Careful training of our mind can result in wonders. If we keep recognizing our own anger symptoms and try to calm down ourselves it can definitely save our own and others' lives for sure. We need to challenge ourselves not to get angry. If we get angry we don't react first verbally, then physically and finally mentally too. Anger management or control does not mean we keep silent all the while. If we are angry due to some valid reason, we can take our time, think carefully and discuss the issue with the relevant parties later on to avoid our anger sinks to the subconsciousness and start growing therein slowly as a killer poison tree. 

The question was directly asked from the participants and they responded vividly.